About Me

At age 52 I found myself asking the questions: “I have everything that I want; my own home, a job I enjoy that pays the bills, my two beautiful children, so why do I feel so unhappy?  Why am I struggling to motivate myself every day?”  I kept thinking “what’s the point?” I was stuck in a rut.

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My lack of motivation became a real problem especially because I was a single parent.  And so, I started to look on the internet to find out how to motivate myself.

I remember various videos by Marisa Peer that I watched, where she talked about habits of action being driven by habits of thought.  She talked about the neuroplasticity of the brain and about being able to re-wire the brain for positive thinking.

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I downloaded Marisa Peer's free “I am enough” recording and listened to it every day for 21 days.  At around day 10, I woke up in the morning, sat up on the edge of my bed, and noticed that I felt different.  I felt happy.  I felt motivated.  This felt strange but nice at the same time.  I wanted to know more about how and why listening to the recording had changed the way I felt, and this was the beginning of my journey to become a Certified Rapid Transformational Therapist and a Certified Hypnotherapist.

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During my training, I realised that there were events in my life that, whilst they were not highly traumatic, had shaped the way I thought about life, and how I behaved.  Events such as:

• Being left to play on my own for hours, made me feel I was insignificant and unloved.  This created a belief that I was not worth spending time with and a behaviour where I felt I had to please people in order to feel significant and worthy of love.

• Repeatedly being diminished in front of others where I felt humiliated and insignificant.  This created a belief that I couldn’t trust anyone and that I wasn’t good enough to be loved.  It created a behaviour where I would not allow others to get close to me; I became shy, withdrawn, and isolated.

• Being bullied at school made me feel humiliated and worthless.  I told my mum, and she did nothing about it.  This reinforced the belief that I was insignificant, unloved and not worth protecting.  It reinforced the behaviour that I couldn’t trust anyone, and I became more introverted, and stayed away from people in groups.

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The common denominator of these events was the feeling of being insignificant, unlovable and worthless.  As I moved through life, those beliefs were reinforced by numerous events, one of which was being dumped by a boyfriend.  This led me to attempt taking my life because once again, I felt humiliated, insignificant, and worthless.  I came to the conclusion: “what’s the point?”  This thought was driving my lack of motivation.

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During my RTT training, I began to understand how my behaviours were being driven by the memories of events in my life.  When I took another look at the memories of those earlier events during RTT practice training session, I realised that I had created those beliefs with the best understanding and knowledge that I had available to me as a child.  Now, I had the opportunity to look at those early events again, but this time, using my adult understanding, knowledge, and wisdom, I was able to get new insight, belief and meaning which set me free from the negative emotions driving the lack of motivation.  And more than that, I was able to see that something positive had been borne out of those early events; I had an empathy for people who are in emotional pain and a desire to help them be free of it and to help set them on the path to build a life they love.

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So, if you feel your life is stuck in a rut, and you don’t know how to get out of it, click on the link below and book a free 30-minute Discovery call and start your journey towards the life you love.

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Issues I can help you with:

• Self Esteem and Confidence

• Anxiety, panic attacks and depression

• Procrastination and motivation

• Achieving goals

• Memory, concentration, nerves and exams

• Sex & relationships

• Weight problems and eating problems

• Fears and phobias

• Smoking

• Addictions

• Pain management

• Fertility